While the adoption process may have been brutal, one of the happiest days of your life probably was your adoption finalization. That was when your child was legally yours, even though s/he was probably already yours in your heart and mind. Adopting is a journey all on its own, but an entirely new journey begins at finalization. And this journey comes with its own group of setbacks and issues. Being prepared is a great way to deal with some of these issues, but just having the resources you need when those questions arise is the most important thing. And that's exactly what you'll find in this section, including some of the following topics:
Building an Open-Adoption Relationship - If you agreed to an open adoption pre-finalization, it's important that you stick to your word. However, keep in mind that open adoption means something different to everyone. So, make sure everyone in your immediate adoption triad is on the same page with the relationship expectations and needs of each other. Post-adoption relationships are all about working together and respecting each other.
Are You Entitled to Parent? - This page is all about learning to feel that needed entitlement to parent a child who was not biologically born into your family. Some parents have a difficult time adjusting their thought processes when it comes to biological children and adopted children. This doesn't mean you're a bad parent. It simply means that you might have to work a little harder to feel that entitlement to parent. This can sometimes come about if the biological family is involved in an open adoption relationship with you. You may feel they have more of a right to parent than you do because they are biologically related. But it's important to remember that it is now your responsibility to parent your child.
Talking to Children about Adoption - Adoption can be a confusing concept to some children, and to some adults, for that matter. But openly talking about adoption is important in any home. An adoption doesn't have to be a secret, and it's not something to be embarrassed about. Helping to explain adoption to your children will encourage others to do the same. You could even volunteer at your children's schools to talk to their classmates about adoption.
Finding the Right Adoption Therapist - Adoption can be a rough transition sometimes. And even if a child was placed at infancy, there can be attachment issues along with all the other questions they'll have as they get older. Finding the right adoption therapist or counselor is crucial to your and your child's progression. Don't feel stuck with the therapist or counselor you're with now. You can always find another one that fits your needs better. After all, that's the most important thing.
These are just a few of the parental issues you'll read about in this extensive section. Take some time to explore the other pages, and you'll be able to find the helpful information you're looking for. Parenting is a tough job, perhaps the toughest. Just know that you are surrounding by those who want to help ease your burden by providing important resources and information that can help you become the parent you've always wanted to be.
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